Jonne Donne sermonized the situation in 1623 so I'm Google-informed. He didn't call it a memento mori, but that's what he was getting at. Here's what he said:
Meditation XVII
PERCHANCE he for whom this bell tolls may be so ill, as that he knows not it tolls for him; and perchance I may think myself so much better than I am, as that they who are about me, and see my state, may have caused it to toll for me, and I know not that.
The church is Catholic, universal, so are all her actions; all that she does belongs to all. When she baptizes a child, that action concerns me; for that child is thereby connected to that body which is my head too, and ingrafted into that body whereof I am a member.
And when she buries a man, that action concerns me: all mankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated; God employs several translators; some pieces are translated by age, some by sickness, some by war, some by justice; but God's hand is in every translation, and his hand shall bind up all our scattered leaves again for that library where every book shall lie open to one another.
As therefore the bell that rings to a sermon calls not upon the preacher only, but upon the congregation to come, so this bell calls us all; but how much more me, who am brought so near the door by this sickness.
There was a contention as far as a suit (in which both piety and dignity, religion and estimation, were mingled), which of the religious orders should ring to prayers first in the morning; and it was determined, that they should ring first that rose earliest. If we understand aright the dignity of this bell that tolls for our evening prayer, we would be glad to make it ours by rising early, in that application, that it might be ours as well as his, whose indeed it is.
The bell doth toll for him that thinks it doth; and though it intermit again, yet from that minute that that occasion wrought upon him, he is united to God. Who casts not up his eye to the sun when it rises? but who takes off his eye from a comet when that breaks out? Who bends not his ear to any bell which upon any occasion rings? but who can remove it from that bell which is passing a piece of himself out of this world?
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were: any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.
Neither can we call this a begging of misery, or a borrowing of misery, as though we were not miserable enough of ourselves, but must fetch in more from the next house, in taking upon us the misery of our neighbours. Truly it were an excusable covetousness if we did, for affliction is a treasure, and scarce any man hath enough of it. No man hath affliction enough that is not matured and ripened by and made fit for God by that affliction.
If a man carry treasure in bullion, or in a wedge of gold, and have none coined into current money, his treasure will not defray him as he travels. Tribulation is treasure in the nature of it, but it is not current money in the use of it, except we get nearer and nearer our home, heaven, by it. Another man may be sick too, and sick to death, and this affliction may lie in his bowels, as gold in a mine, and be of no use to him; but this bell, that tells me of his affliction, digs out and applies that gold to me: if by this consideration of another's danger I take mine own into contemplation, and so secure myself, by making my recourse to my God, who is our only security.
I don't know if you read through the whole thing, but here's the short translation, although the 17th century prose that gave us Shakespearean sonnets and the King James version of the Bible is almost too perfect to be tampered with. Forgive me, John Boy.
The church bell rings at someone's funeral or when they're deathly ill and it could be for me and I don't know it. Because the Church incorporates everyone, any of its actions concerns me, from baptism to burial. And if someone dies, it is just like a translation from one language into another with the translators being age, sickness, war or justice, and so that bell calls all of us, preacher and congregation to think about our connectedness and it should grab our attention like a comet does. Nobody lives alone and we influence everyone else whether we know it or not. Don't get all morbid about this tolling bell thing because it's just giving us a wake-up call and if we're in hard times, that's good because it makes us aware that we better shape up before we head for heaven, and that wake-up call is like taking a chunk of metal that won't buy anything and minting it into a useful coin.
I prefer Preacher Donne's version , but I had to have a go at it. About the time of his sermon, or short centuries thereafter, it became customary for those who could afford it to have a skull sitting on their desks as a "momento mori" - a reminder of inevitable death. Presumably it kept one humble and prone to do all the good things that would get them a ticket to paradise. Here's mine.
Yes, it's a skull, a plaster one that Beverly made as a sculpting exercise. The hat is my old wolf cub cap and the goggles are ones my mom wore when riding the back of Dad's 1930s BSA Indian motorcycle. My mom as a biker chick? Who'da thought it? Check out the photo proof.
But, back to my memento mori. I'm on my way out whether I deny it or not, and denial doesn't determine a death date. (Ooh the alliteration. Make it a poster). On the topic, Peter Mansbridge interviewed David Suzuki some years ago - the old guy (Suzuki, I mean) had just had a birthday and Mansbridge was asking what he was looking forward to. Suzuki said, "Well, I'm in my death years and so …"
Yeah, I didn't hear what came next either, and I was glad when Peter asked him to say more about that expression. Suzuki said it wasn't complicated and it wasn't morbid; it was simply that after 75 years of age, the demographic statistics asserted an ever-steeper rise in the probability of death. Big deal; get on with whatever you're up to and enjoy the finer things of life. For him - and I dare say for all of us - those "finer things" were the joy of relationships, the love of family and the happy acceptance and continuing pursuit of one's accomplishments, whatever they were. Yup, Doing that.
You may well ask, "Where do you keep your MM?" The mantel in the living room wouldn't make it the best or most comfortable conversation piece for guests, and neither would the dining room table. Besides, Beverly already has those spots crowded with sculptures of naked people or with vases of flowers, both of which are far more interesting than a plaster skull, goggles or not.
I keep it on a shelf behind my desk alongside my collection of published books (OK, so they're self-published, but they're there) and family photos. It reminds me that writing and relationships have been very satisfying experiences for me and have given purpose to my senior years.
I don't have collections of letters written to politicians or op-ed rants published in local journals because I want my bookshelf to say that I loved people and poetry and humour and travelling. And it does. The memento mori reminds me, as it reminded Wolfe at the Plains of Abraham that "The paths of glory lead but to the grave."
Or, that, "No man is an island, entire of itself; … and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee."